Pricey Amy: My husband and I’ve season tickets to our native symphony. Earlier than the beginning of every live performance, viewers members are requested to silence all cellphones and to NOT document any a part of the efficiency.
Over the last two live shows we attended, we’ve sat behind a number of individuals who have whipped out telephones and recorded the live performance.
Final time, one couple, in addition to recording, had somewhat loud conversations and proceeded to take “selfies” (at nighttime). We weren’t the one individuals disturbed by this.
I do know that recording the efficiency upsets the musicians. (And the loud speaking/images trouble the viewers!)
Amy, might you please give a rundown of some concert-going guidelines, and clarify why there needs to be no filming of (any) public performances?
— Having fun with the Music
Pricey Having fun with: Right here is a few very clear course, lifted from the New York Philharmonic web site (nyphil.org): “Viewers members might take images earlier than and after the live performance, in addition to throughout intermission and applause. Please observe, nonetheless, that no images or recording of any variety is permitted through the efficiency. Anybody seen utilizing a digital camera, smartphone or different machine for these actions shall be requested to depart.”
And here’s a quote from an article revealed in “Billboard” Journal:
“Federal legislation … imposes civil penalties for the unauthorized recording of reside performances or the transmission or distribution of such. That is true even when the bootlegging just isn’t accomplished for business achieve. The statute gives that anybody who engages in these prohibited acts is probably answerable for cash damages. A court docket can also impound relevant recordings.”
Some common performers are actually requiring that viewers members truly give up their telephones when coming into a venue.
Performers and conductors have the appropriate to carry out with out their mental property being recorded and presumably shared. Viewers members have the appropriate to get pleasure from a efficiency with out being subjected to the apparent distraction of vivid smartphone lights.
Egocentric viewers members want to grasp that they aren’t a part of the night’s efficiency. Nobody is entranced by changing into an unwitting photobomb of their selfies.
Ask anybody round you to, “Please cease utilizing your telephones now.” In the event that they refuse, get an usher instantly.
Pricey Amy: Our daughter, a university freshman, had a really restricted social life in highschool. She was well-liked in class, however on weekends, maybe as a result of she didn’t drink or smoke, she was largely at dwelling (however not sad).
On the finish of senior yr, she met a boy and began courting. She was going out and having enjoyable. Nonetheless not “partying,” although.
He was a pleasant boy, however not wildly bold. We remained neutrally supportive, figuring out that she was going away to high school. He works retail jobs, lives at dwelling and is now smoking pot.
In the meantime we came upon (by way of a glitch within the household iMessage) that she’s seeing a man in her school city. He’s not in school, however works in a sandwich store.
We don’t know what to do. On the one hand we really feel stupidly old style and classist; on the opposite we really feel our sensible, charming daughter deserves higher.
Is there a strategy to discuss to her about this? Or ought to we hold religion in her and let issues take their course.
— New Outdated-Normal Dad
Pricey Dad: Sure, you might be reacting to this relationship in a approach that’s old style and classist. The concept, for example, that somebody just isn’t “ok” as a result of he’s working — versus going to your daughter’s school — is patently ridiculous. He could possibly be taking a spot yr to take care of an sick member of the family. He could possibly be working at a sandwich store till he can afford to pay for his personal training. Or he may be an underachiever who has incredible style in ladies.
This relationship has nothing to do with you, till your daughter chooses to reveal it to you. Having quite a lot of relationships shall be an essential a part of your daughter’s training. She should be “allowed” to discover and expertise. And sure, it’s best to undoubtedly retain an angle of supportive neutrality.
Pricey Amy: “Put Upon Good friend” wrote to you a couple of buddy who was periodically abusive towards her. I’ll let you know what I did in the same state of affairs: When my “buddy” instructed me, “I want you had been gone,” I stated, “Nice!” And I felt liberated. Freedom!
— No Longer Put Upon
Pricey No Longer: “Put Upon’s” buddy is bipolar. This provides a stage of complication, and implies a stage of compassion. However I perceive your individual response.