Expensive Amy: My ex-fiance and I had been collectively for 5 years, and have been separated for over three years. We now have a baby.
We now have shared custody of our little one, and though my ex could be very rich, I’ve by no means requested for any little one assist or compensation as a result of I simply needed us to give attention to co-parenting our little one, with out the mess.
My mom knowledgeable me that my ex was engaged, after she noticed it on social media. He by no means instructed me. We had a fantastic relationship till he began seeing this lady. In accordance with him, she could be very jealous of me.
I see my ex not less than as soon as per week. Though I had a unfavourable opinion after I discovered about their relationship, I bought over it rapidly and instructed my ex that if she makes him glad, then I want him the very best.
They bought married rapidly after being engaged and he nonetheless hasn’t mentioned something to me.
Now our relationship has an ungainly vibe. I don’t need to make him really feel uncomfortable, and I’ve been ready to see if he would ultimately inform me about his marriage. I’ve been very good to his spouse. I’m unsure why he’s hiding all of those necessary occasions from me.
Ought to I say one thing, simply to get it out of the way in which so it doesn’t pressure our relationship?
— Glass Half Full
Expensive Glass: You appear to focus completely in your ex’s life — and his emotions — when you need to be focusing by yourself, and your little one’s.
You each appear cowardly. He’s too hen to inform you he’s gotten married. And also you don’t appear to have advocated in your little one. Do you might have a authorized custody settlement?
Even in case you can readily afford elevating your little one, you might advocate for assist with insurance coverage, extracurricular actions and faculty down the street. Serving to to assist a baby financially is a vital side of “co-parenting.”
Your little one now has a stepmother. This might be a game-changer on many fronts — for all of you.
You need to obtain authorized counsel as quickly as doable.
Discover the phrases. Say to your ex, “So, I perceive that you just and Margo bought married. Are you able to clarify why you determined to not inform me this?”
Expensive Amy: I not too long ago hosted an outdated faculty buddy for lunch at my home, alongside together with her husband and younger daughter, “Lillie.”
I’ve bought a medium-sized canine that will get nervous round new folks, so for security’s sake I locked the canine in her kennel and saved her in a again room.
My buddy requested a number of instances if she might take her daughter to the again to “see the pet,” however I mentioned no as a result of the canine would keep calmer if she was left alone.
Effectively, whereas I used to be busy cooking lunch, my buddy apparently snuck Lillie to the again room to see the canine.
Subsequent factor I do know, Lillie is screaming/crying, and my buddy is yelling at me.
Apparently the canine nipped at Lillie and scared her (there was no bodily contact). Now, my buddy is offended with me for “permitting” my canine to scare her little one. She is threatening to report me to animal management.
I believe she’s insane.
My canine was locked away in her kennel. I said very clearly to go away the canine alone, and he or she ignored me.
My buddy says she desires an apology and for me to eliminate the canine, or she received’t be visiting anymore. Who is true right here?
Expensive Doggone: From this level ahead, it might be wisest so that you can check with this individual not as a buddy, however a “former buddy.”
Taking your narrative at face worth, she is an irresponsible guardian who knowingly and intentionally ignored clearly said warnings and put her little one in hurt’s approach.
I received’t counsel that you just counter her risk with considered one of your personal (to report her to CPS for little one endangerment), however the temptation is definitely there.
You don’t owe her an apology. Nor do I believe it is best to proceed to speak together with her about this.
I do suppose it is best to maintain her to her promise to not go to you anymore.
Expensive Amy: Cute recommendation to “Frozen,” to supply a younger little one an ice pack for a little bit boo-boo. However — howdy — ice packs can truly “burn” younger pores and skin.
I counsel you rethink your recommendation.
Expensive Disillusioned: Dad and mom should be sure their treatment doesn’t trigger different issues. I believe most can handle to make their ice packs protected.